jimdana1942
oldtimer
What does all this mean?
What does all this mean?
Then tonight, she wants to sit down and talk. To come to a conclusion and say that we need to separate and divorce.
Amen to all the above encouragement.
My ex pulled the mother of all shitty tricks and sold the house, gave away all the belongings and kidnapped my 2 year old, while I was in Louisiana to get my certs to work offshore. I was homeless, broke, and had no idea ANY of it was coming. She and her mother had planned the operation for some time apparently, and had a substantial disinformation program set up to keep me from learning where my son was being kept.
I say all this NOT for sympathy, but to let youknow that many of us have been F#$@ED over by soulless and evil females. Take the high road, my friend. Some great advice I was given is that..."People's lives are their own rewards." My personal hell happened in 1998, and now 12 years later I'm living a BLESSED life, with much more than I deserve. We have your back, amigo.
Thanks guys.
I haven't been in love with her for quite some time but, I've given her my best despite the put downs. I can't say that I haven't put her down a few times, it's inevitable in the amounts of arguments we've had. It got to the point a couple weeks ago, that I called the police after she started hitting me. Not that I was really concerned of getting hurt, but I was past the point to caring enough to be bothered if she went to jail. Nothing came of it because I dropped it and she did the same after I did, (she called them right after I did even though I hadn't done anything to her) and because if I get involved in a domestic abuse charge, the state will take away my firearms. That's what one of the officers told me. One a side note, that same officer was at the gun show and we chatted for a moment. It was kind of ironic given he said to me, "I hope that next time we meet, it will be on the street and we'll just be saying hi."
Last night she plainly and clearly stated, "I'm not the woman you wanted to marry. I'm not the woman more. I have changed, I know who I am now." She went on to describe exactly what I wanted, which is what she personified her self to be in the beginning. I don't see how I can fight with nor do I want to. It's been obvious that she's not who she was trying to be. It just took a while for her to realize it and admit it, I guess.
The curve ball of this our son, who is not mine biologically. He's 3 and calls me daddy. I've been with him for just over a year and it's breaking my heart that his family is splitting up. I don't know how to continue to show him love, as much as it breaks my heart to see him and him to be completely unaware of what's going on and what's most likely going to happen. I don't know whether I should continue to care for him after it's all said and done, or what to do. His biological father is a royal dirt bag, and will soon be having a very bad day in court due to violations of the court order and child support fraud, but still have 50% custody. Our hearts are aching for him and what us separating/divorcing will mean for him.
She's enjoying who she has become, which isn't a bad person but, her personality and priorities are not meshing with me. I can't change her, nor do I want to.
Robert Frost said:The Road Not Taken
TWO roads diverged in a yellow wood,
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood
And looked down one as far as I could
To where it bent in the undergrowth;
Then took the other, as just as fair,
And having perhaps the better claim,
Because it was grassy and wanted wear;
Though as for that the passing there
Had worn them really about the same,
And both that morning equally lay
In leaves no step had trodden black.
Oh, I kept the first for another day!
Yet knowing how way leads on to way,
I doubted if I should ever come back.
I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.
As of today I can count my friends with one hand and still have fingers left over but it doesnt bother me any more, it just gives me more fuel to succeed in life.
You got one or two around here last time I checked.