So, here is my dilemma...
My new wife has a problem with me carrying when we go out together. The thought of me ever having to draw my weapon just scares the crap out of her. She does not have any problems with guns in general. She has even been to the range with me (a great shot) and most all the men in her family are into guns (some much more than me). She knows that I carry when I am not with her and has never said anything about it.
It is not like this is anything new, ever since I got my CHL she has always said "you're not really going to carry though, right?" She seems to prefer that I avoid conflict at all costs and take a completely passive approach to our safety. When I try to talk to her about it she generally blows it off. When I have gotten her to talk about it she asks me dumb questions like "so if some does _____ you are just going to shoot them?" I always just put off the argument with the hopes that she would eventually become comfortable with the idea and I would be able to talk sensibly to her about it.
She really does not have any reason not to trust me or to think I would draw for an unjustified reason or enter into any unnecessary conflict (never was one to get in a fight).
I am looking for any constructive criticism (come on ladies/wives) on how to strike a nerve with her and get her to take her (and my) safety seriously. I sometimes make comments about waiting for something bad to happen before she agrees to allow me to carry, but that never goes over well.
I am a strong proponent of second amendment rights and understand the responsibility required to be an armed citizen in today’s world, but how do I make her understand that? I will not be able to live with myself if I ever end up in the position of the helpless, defenseless victim (even though I could be any day on the "gun free zone" college campus, but that is for another thread).
Thanks in advance for any thoughts/suggestions.
-Reese
My new wife has a problem with me carrying when we go out together. The thought of me ever having to draw my weapon just scares the crap out of her. She does not have any problems with guns in general. She has even been to the range with me (a great shot) and most all the men in her family are into guns (some much more than me). She knows that I carry when I am not with her and has never said anything about it.
It is not like this is anything new, ever since I got my CHL she has always said "you're not really going to carry though, right?" She seems to prefer that I avoid conflict at all costs and take a completely passive approach to our safety. When I try to talk to her about it she generally blows it off. When I have gotten her to talk about it she asks me dumb questions like "so if some does _____ you are just going to shoot them?" I always just put off the argument with the hopes that she would eventually become comfortable with the idea and I would be able to talk sensibly to her about it.
She really does not have any reason not to trust me or to think I would draw for an unjustified reason or enter into any unnecessary conflict (never was one to get in a fight).
I am looking for any constructive criticism (come on ladies/wives) on how to strike a nerve with her and get her to take her (and my) safety seriously. I sometimes make comments about waiting for something bad to happen before she agrees to allow me to carry, but that never goes over well.
I am a strong proponent of second amendment rights and understand the responsibility required to be an armed citizen in today’s world, but how do I make her understand that? I will not be able to live with myself if I ever end up in the position of the helpless, defenseless victim (even though I could be any day on the "gun free zone" college campus, but that is for another thread).
Thanks in advance for any thoughts/suggestions.
-Reese